The 5 Personality Patterns: Which One Fits You?

Learn about your personality pattern and how to move out of pattern into wholeness for a happier and healthier life

Sandra Pawula
10 min readAug 4, 2021

Do you feel like you’re repeating the same frustrating personality patterns again and again? Do you react to others in the same tiresome ways, but don’t know how to stop?

If your answer is yes, I invite you to explore the Five Personality Patterns. Once you know your particular survival style, you can learn to move out of patterned behavior into presence and a far happier life.

Deeply held propensities from childhood exert a powerful influence on adult life. After years of repetition, certain ways of thinking, speaking, and acting become automatic even though they create distress, drama, and discouragement.

But there is a way out of these defeating patterns. It begins by getting to know your core wound, and the specific survival strategies you embraced as a child and then later brought into your adult life. That might seem impossible or too complex, but I have good news for you.

In his book, The 5 Personality Patterns, Steven Kessler, M.A. provides a lucid description of the main emotional survival styles used by most people, and a clear map of how to heal and transform…

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Sandra Pawula

Essays to calm your mind, ease your heart and access your inner wisdom. I love Hawaii, mindfulness, and living with ease. https://sandrapawula.substack.com/